Defining Being

As you may know me.... I try to pen my feelings, with more honesty than with language and grammar. While reading the posts below you may experience what compelled me to write these.
While I was thinking of giving a name to my Blog; this came to me; "Nuances of Being"
Being "Me" is the best that I am at and hope that will show in the posts below

And Thanks for reading

~Nikhil




Monday, February 27, 2017

Almost a Cinderella Story

She was young and bright, probably the smartest child in her village. But misfortune doesn’t care about the strengths of one’s faculties. It may try to challenge that strength. Her’s was challenged at the young age of 14, when her father had a stroke. Her family spent all the savings they had to try and get him cured. The efforts helped him live a couple more years, but at the cost of them losing all the savings and the house they were in. When she was 15 she had to take a job as a janitor in the nearest town’s hospital that she once had dreamed of serving as a doctor.

Not only excellent at studies, she had been very committed and diligent too. She couldn’t be the doctor she wanted to be, but she sure served the patients in the hospital with nothing but complete dedication. She would spend long hours with the doctors and nurses curing the sick and the hurt. She would console the tired and concerned family members of the patients and comfort the patients with her uplifting stories and sunny demeanor. Not to mention she was the most popular person the hospital ever had in its staff.

When she was 20 and training to be a nurse while still doing her other staff duties, her life had to see yet another turn. The night was dark and cold and it was snowing very heavy. She was working in night shift. That night emergency was short of staff as some doctors and nurses couldn’t make it to the hospital due to the roads being blocked by snow. Around 1 AM she heard some commotion in the waiting area. It was a patient in his late twenties. He came to the  town for a dinner, and met with an accident while returning; the staff nurse told her. He had received bad wounds, especially the one on the forehead, which continued to bleed. He was losing consciousness while waiting for his turn to be taken in. We should take him in, she whispered. But the two doctors are attending other emergencies, so what can we do? The nurse responded. He may bleed to death, and I cannot let this happen, she replied.

Next minute she was pushing the guy on a wheel chair towards the triage room, along with a very reluctant nurse. A few minutes later, the guy was given some first aid, which helped stop the bleeding. The vitals were taken and things looked better. The doctor when returned, applauded her courage and mentioned that the wound was not too dangerous, but the loss of blood and the cold temperature could have been fatal if she had not shown presence of mind and taken initiative. Her nurse training was fast tracked and a 2 months later she was a proud nurse in the hospital.

Around the same time she received a note from the guy. He was son of a millionaire industrialist. Also his father’s run charity had a chain of hospitals for the underprivileged and he was the managing director of that charity. For her courage and zeal, he had offered her a job in one of his hospital. And in a few months he was so fond of her mannerism, her personality, her attitude and her knowledge that he proposed to marry her. A proposal she could not say no to.

A true Cinderella story. She held on to her courage when the fate showed her no mercy and the same courage made her the heiress of a big empire. Everyone was happy for her and the story of her courage and attitude was told in the small town she had lived as a child.

I knew her well as we had both gone to same school as kids. And I had witnessed her life changes very closely.

Few days ago I was travelling through the same small town and I stopped by the small coffee shop near the town square to meet an old coworker, and there she was, sitting on a corner table and sipping her coffee. How are you madam? I greeted. She looked at me and the polite smile turned into a wide grin at seeing a child hood friend. After the pleasantries were exchanged and pastries ordered, I asked her, “What are you doing these days?” I am studying medicine, soon to be a doctor she proudly said. Also I am back at my old job as a nurse in the same hospital. The last line surprised me, studying medicine was fine, but the heiress working as a nurse? I left him, she said reading on my face the question that was raising in my heart. What? Why? I asked, voice raised out of disbelief.

No don’t take me wrong, he is really a great guy. He did love me; but all the time we were together he never seem to remember what he married me for. But also he never forgot what my social and financial status was when we first met and neither did he let me forget it. I thought I married the guy who loved what I did and appreciated what I could become in future but in fact he married the hospital janitor who showed courage beyond compare. I like him a lot but it felt very odd as a janitor living in a palace wearing queen’s robes. So I decided to be what I always wanted to be, and to work to be that. And here I am, honestly no regrets.

No regrets, I could see that clear on her face. She was confident as ever. She was the true Cinderella, not the one that the prince would marry just because the shoe fits, but the one prince would see as his equal if not more.
For the prince, he is the one who lost in this story, he lost the one who had saved his life and the one who could save many more.

For me, I learnt a big lesson; in life whoever you meet or deal with, your family, your spouse, your friends, your coworkers, your children etc. Make sure that you always respect what they are capable of.


Epilogue: A few minutes after when I was seeing her off the coffee shop my friend and ex-coworker showed up. He was obviously late for our meeting, and his face gave signals of apology under the tired eyes. Who is she? He asked out of curiosity, and I told him the whole story. Oh, I see, Thanks. He said, to a surprised me, why thanks? Then he cleared, you see our software vendor was having trouble with his employees last year. We found that they were underpaid and unappreciated, however a high employee churn lead to him folding the business and we ended up directly hiring his entire team of coders. Higher salary and good benefits made those guys work wonders in first few months, but after one quarter performances started declining and now we are fearing even worse churn that our vendor had faced with this team. I was always wondering what went wrong, and came here to seek your counsel, but your Cinderella showed me the way. Now I know what went wrong and I think I can fix the problem. So Thanks, he chuckled. We both smiled. We both have learnt that Cinderella stories can teach good business too. 

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

एक सवाल, नेताओं से

I was in India a few days back and all the TV channels were heated with the state election talks. Some old and some new faces of the "leaders" were spewing promises non stop and so I thought of a humble question. Hope you like it and may even ask if you get a chance.


एक सवाल, नेताओं से  

हमारी खाल से बाल खींच के 
हम को ही ओढ़ाते हो 
ऐसे टेड़े आईडिया, नेता जी 
कहो कहाँ से लाते हो?

काले सफ़ेद का भेद बता कर 
हमें चक्कर में उलझाते हो 
हरे को  गुलाबी कर के भी 
घर अपने ही भर जाते हो 
ऐसे टेड़े आईडिया, नेता जी 
कहो कहाँ से लाते हो?

बांधे राखी ये ईद मिले हम 
यह आप को कब भाया है?
जात, प्रांत का, रंग, धर्म का 
भेद हमें समझने को 
नहरें , नदियां रुकवा देते हो 
बस्तियां , घर जलवाते हो 
ऐसे टेड़े आईडिया, नेता जी 
कहो कहाँ से लाते हो?