Defining Being

As you may know me.... I try to pen my feelings, with more honesty than with language and grammar. While reading the posts below you may experience what compelled me to write these.
While I was thinking of giving a name to my Blog; this came to me; "Nuances of Being"
Being "Me" is the best that I am at and hope that will show in the posts below

And Thanks for reading

~Nikhil




Wednesday, November 13, 2013

The God of Cricket is Retiring? - My Thanks to Sachin Tendulkar

“The God of Cricket is retiring.” The whole nation is sad and not only that, cricket lovers throughout the Globe are moved by this decision. Talk about the retirement and the farewell ceremonies to felicitate this God of Cricket on his last match are un-matched. No one has ever heard of any cricketer or any athlete, anywhere in the World getting such a glittering Farewell.

Like many others I also believe that his absence from the world cricket will be felt as I have watched him playing all my life. But I think it is unfair to him when people refer to him as God.

BUT WAIT!! He is no God. He is just another human being who became a living legend persistently following the basics. By calling him God, somewhere I feel that his greatness as a Man and his dedication as a human is challenged and that is not justified.

I am sharing some (just a few) of the things that I think of when I see him (on and off field) and I think these traits can be key to inspire anyone in any field of life and not only cricket

Humility: He is an idol of humility. In spite of the fan –following and the superb career studded with success and world records, he never let the success get to his head. He never rose himself above the game. The game stayed above him always and he showed that in every match he played even when people (including viewers, media and his team mates) were hell bent on putting him above the game.
Focus: In his career of 24 years he has been in form and out of form many a times. He has played well and also played bad in many matches; he has thrilled the spectators and also disappointed them many a times. But he never lost his focus regarding his playing. The ecstasy after a super performance and the distress after flop show at the field, were never carried over to the next game day.
Excitement: He has excited people all over the world so many times with his super skills, but they seemed to have no obvious impact on him. He was always very openly and obviously excited about the game. He never showed signs of it being monotonous or repetitive. He appeared as excited for a game after years of cricketing as he had appeared in his early career.
Contentment: When people fight for higher ranks, he declined captaincy of the team after performing poorly as a captain and was easily able to play under the guidance of much younger captains than himself, both in age and in cricket. He never showed signs of arrogance or seniority in spite of being the most senior player in the team for many years.
Dedication: Seeing his cricketing career one can see signs of not being a player but a devotee to the game. He dedicated his career to only one thing and that was playing cricket. He was never in controversies, never displayed arrogance or behavior issues in spite of being at the very top of the cricketing pyramid and staying there for ages. His dedication to game and to game only has always been commendable. He is the manifestation of what many managers tell their subordinates and coaches tell their teams and parents tell their children, “just focus on your performance and the score board will take care of itself”
Tranquility: “He is too old and he should retire”; “He is out of form and he should not humiliate himself by playing more”; “He is too unfit to play any longer”; “He should leave the game before he is thrown out”; “He is a burden for his team” and many more negative statements year over years whenever he was in ‘poor form’. None of that negativity even touched him he came back better and stronger every time proving the critics and the naysayers wrong. His Zen like tranquility in bad times of his game, health, team-performance etc. was unmoved and never effected by anything outside.
Self-Confidence: He knew his strengths and his faith on his abilities were so strong that no failures, no criticism, no defeats could beat him down. He stood tall (in spite of his short frame) in every adversity and rose as a hero for the generations.

No he is no God as God’s do not retire. He is a human being who showed everyone that following some basics taught in early childhood and never loosing grip on that one can rise to level that for most is unimaginable. His basics, his principles, his story, his life, his game can motivate anyone in any field of life and can guide the generations to do great things.

Truly he proved “just focus on your performance and the score board will take care of itself”

Kudos to you Mr. Sachin Tendulkar for being an inspiration. And all those who know you also know this that you will never retire from cricket; you will be very much in the game even after you stop playing the international format of it……
Looking forward to your next innings after the International Cricket one is over…….

Official awards
·        1994Sandeepreddy Award Recipient for achievements in cricket
·        1997: Tendulkar was one of the five cricketers selected as Wisden Cricketer of the Year
·        1997/98: India's highest sporting honour – Rajiv Gandhi Khel Ratna[3]
·        1999Padma Shri – India's fourth highest civilian award[4]
·        2008Padma Vibhushan – India's second highest civilian award[5]
·        2010ICC Cricketer of the year – Highest award in the ICC listings[6]
·        2010LG People's Choice Award[6]
·        ICC World Test XI: 2009, 2010, 2011
·        ICC World ODI XI: 2004, 2007, 2010
·        Wisden Leading Cricketer in the World 1997, 2010, 2012
Media awards
·        In August 2003, he was voted as the "Greatest Sportsman" of the country in the sport personalities category in the Best of India poll conducted by Zee News.[7]
·        In November 2006, Time magazine named him as one of the Asian Heroes.[8]
·        In December 2006, he was named "Sports person of the Year"
·        In June 2009, Time magazine included his Test Debut in "Top 10 Sporting Moments".[9]
·        In 2010, he was voted as one of the world's 100 most influential people in "The 2010 TIME 100" poll conducted by Time magazine.[10]
·        The current India Poised campaign run by The Times of India has nominated him as the Face of New India next to the likes of Amartya Sen and Mahatma Gandhi among others.
·        In February 2010,he was declared "Sports Icon of the Year for 21 years" by NDTV at the NDTV Indian of the Year Awards.[11]
Others
He is the only player of current generation who was included by Sir Don Bradman in his squad of playing eleven. And rated him the best among cricketer of his generation.
List of some other notable achievements:
1.     Highest run getter in test matches (15,847 as on 8 November 2013).
2.     Highest run getter in ODIs (18,426).
3.     15,310 of his runs came while opening the innings with the aid of 45 centuries and 75 fifties in 340 innings- most by an opener.
4.     Most number of centuries in Test matches – 51.
5.     Most number of centuries in ODIs – 49.
6.     Most number of man of the match awards (62) in the ODIs.
7.     Most number of man of the series awards (17) in ODIs.
8.     Best average for man of the matches in ODIs.
9.     First cricketer to reach 10,000–11,000–12,000–13,000–14,000–15,000–16,000–17,000–18,000 runs in the ODIs.
10.   Only player ever to cross the 14,000–15,000–16,000–17,000 and 18,000 run marks in ODIs.
11.    He is the highest run scorer in World Cups (2,278 at an average of 56.95)
12.   Most number of the man of the match awards in World cups.
13.   Most number of runs in the 1996 World cup – 523 runs at an average of 87.16.
14.   Most number of runs in the 2003 World cup – 673 runs in 2003 Cricket World Cup, highest by any player in a single Cricket World Cup.
15.   Most number of Fifties in ODIs – 96.
16.   Highest number of 50+ scores in ODI’s – 145 (49 Centuries and 96 Fifties).
17.   First player to have scored over 100 innings of 50+ runs in ODIs.
18.   Appeared in most number of tests – 200.
19.   Appeared in most number of ODIs – 463.
20.   First player to score 200 runs in an ODI.
21.   Tendulkar top-scored for India on 129 occasions – most such occasions for any player in ODIs.
22.   He was the first players to complete the all-round treble of 10000 runs, 100 wickets and 100 catches.
23.   Is the only player to have made three scores of 175 or more.
24.   Is the only player with five scores of 150 or more.
25.   Holds the record for scoring 1,000 ODI runs in a calendar year on most occasions. He did so seven times – 1994, 1996, 1997, 1998, 2000, 2003 and 2007
26.   Tendulkar has scored over 1,000 ODI runs against all major Cricketing nations.
27.   Has played ODIs with 866 players (teammates and opponents) – most for any player in ODI history.
28.   He has most scores in 90s: 18 (including one not out innings).
29.   He Was involved in 99 century partnerships – most by any player.
30.   Tendulkar was the first batsman to score over 3,000 runs against an opponent (3,077 runs against Australia).Since then he has also done this against Sri Lanka (3,113 runs).
31.   Tendulkar was the fastest to reach 10,000 runs taking 259 innings and has the highest batting average among batsmen with over 10,000 ODI runs.
32.   Tendulkar is the only Indian to score a century on ODI captaincy debut (110 v Sri Lanka at Colombo RPS on 28 August 1996).
33.   Tendulkar was the first Indian player to score a century and capture four wickets in the same ODI (v Australia at Dhaka on 28 October 1998).
34.   11.27% of all the runs and 24.50% of all the hundreds scored by all Indian batsmen have come from Tendulkar’s bat.
35.   His nine centuries against Australia are the most by any player against a particular country. He occupies the second place too, with eight centuries against Sri Lanka.
36.   Sachin Tendulkar with Sourav Ganguly holds the world record for the maximum number of runs scored by the opening partnership. They put together 6,609 runs in 136 matches that include 21 century partnerships and 23 fifty run partnerships. The 21 century partnerships for the opening pair is also a world record.
37.   Sachin Tendulkar and Rahul Dravid hold the world record for the highest partnership in ODIs when they scored 331 runs for the second wicket against New Zealand in 1999-00 at the Hyderabad.
38.   Only the second player (after Javed Miandad) to appear in SIX World Cups – from 1992 to 2011.
39.   Most ODI runs in a calendar year: 1,894 ODI runs in 1998.
40.   Most Centuries in a calendar year: 9 ODI centuries in 1998.
41.   Longest career span : 22 years 91 days.
42.   Between April 1990 and April 1998 Tendulkar played 185 consecutive matches – a World record.
43.   He is the only player to be in top 10 ICC Batsmen ranking for 10 years in Tests.
44.   He was the first cricketer to receive the Rajiv Gandhi Khel Ratna, India's highest sporting honor only to be followed by Mahendra Singh Dhoni.
45.   In 2002, Wisden rated him as the second greatest Test batsman after Sir Donald Bradman.
46.   In 2003, Wisden rated Tendulkar as the No. 1 and Richards at No. 2 in all time Greatest ODI players.
47.   He was involved in unbroken 664-run partnership in a Harris Shield game in 1988 with friend and team mate Vinod Kambli.
48.   Tendulkar is the only player to score a century in all three of his Ranji Trophy, Duleep Trophy and Irani Trophy debuts.
49.   In 1992, at the age of 19, Tendulkar became the first overseas born player to represent Yorkshire.
50.   Tendulkar has been granted the Rajiv Gandhi Khel Ratna, Arjuna Award, Padma Shri and Padma Vibhushan by Indian government. He is the only Indian cricketer to get all of them.
51.   Tendulkar has scored over 1000 runs in a calendar year in ODIs 7 times.
52.   Tendulkar has scored 1894 runs in calendar year in ODIs most by any batsman.
53.   He has the least percentage of the man of the matches awards won when team loses a match in ODIs. Out of his 62-man of the match awards only 5 times India has lost.
54.   Tendulkar most number man of match awards (12) against Australia.
55.   In August 2003, Sachin Tendulkar was voted as the "Greatest Sportsman" of the country in the sport personalities category in the Best of India poll conducted by Zee News.
56.   In November 2006, Time magazine named Tendulkar as one of the Asian Heroes.
57.   The current India Poised campaign run by The Times of India has nominated him as the Face of New India next to the likes of Amartya Sen and Mahatma Gandhi among others.
58.   Tendulkar was the first batsman to score over 50 centuries in international cricket.
59.   Tendulkar was the first batsman to score over 75 centuries in international cricket.
60.   Has the most overall runs in cricket, (ODIs+Tests+Twenty20s), as of December 2012 he had accumulated almost 34,074 runs overall.
61.   Sachin Tendulkar with Sourav Ganguly hold the world record for the maximum number of runs scored by the opening partnership. They have put together 6,271 runs in 128 matches
62.   The 22 century partnerships for opening pair with Sourav Ganguly is a world record.
63.   Sachin Tendulkar and Rahul Dravid hold the world record for the highest partnership in ODI matches when they scored 331 runs against New Zealand in 1999
64.   Sachin Tendulkar has been involved in six 200 run partnerships in ODI matches – a record that he shares with Sourav Ganguly and Rahul Dravid
65.   Most ODI Centuries in a calendar year: 9 centuries in 1998.
66.   Only player to have over 100 innings of 50+ runs (49 Centuries and 96 Fifties)(as of 7 March 2012)
67.   The only player ever to cross the 14,000, 15,000, 16,000, 17,000, 18,000 run marks IN ODI.
68.   Third highest individual score among Indian batsmen (200* against South Africa at Gwalior in 2011).
69.   The score of 200* is the third highest score recorded in ODI matches.
70.   Tendulkar has scored over 1000 ODI runs against all major Cricketing nations.
71.   Sachin was the fastest to reach 10,000 runs taking 259 innings and has the highest batting average among batsmen with over 10,000 ODI runs
72.   Most number of Stadium Appearances: 90 different Grounds.
73.   Consecutive ODI Appearances: 185.
74.   On his debut, Sachin Tendulkar was the second youngest debutant in the world.
75.   When Tendulkar scored his maiden century in 1990, he was the second youngest to score a century.
76.   Tendulkar's record of five test centuries before he turned 20 is a current world record.
77.   Tendulkar holds the current record (217 against NZ in 1999/00 Season) for the highest score in Test cricket by an Indian when captaining the side.
78.   Tendulkar has scored centuries against all test playing nations.[7] He was the third batman to achieve the distinction after Steve Waugh and Gary Kirsten.
79.   He holds record for the second most number of seasons with over 1000 runs in world in a calendar year.
80.   On 3 January 2007 Sachin Tendulkar (5751) edged past Brian Lara's (5736) world record of runs scored in Tests away from home.
81.   Tendulkar and Brian Lara are the fastest to score 10,000 runs in Test cricket history. Both of them achieved this in 195 innings.
82.   Second Indian after Sunil Gavaskar to make over 10,000 runs in Test matches.
83.   Became the first Indian to surpass the 11,000 Test run mark and the third overall.
84.   First to score 30,000 international runs.
85.   Tendulkar's 33,906 runs in international cricket include 18,426 runs in ODIs, 15,470 Tests runs and 10 runs in the lone Twenty20 that India has played.
86.   On 10 December 2005, Tendulkar made his 35th century in Tests at Delhi against Sri Lanka . He surpassed Sunil Gavaskar's record of 34 centuries to become the man with the most number of hundreds in Test cricket.
87.   Tendulkar is the only player who has 150 wickets and more than 15,000 runs in ODIs.
88.   Tendulkar is the first batsman in history to score 100 centuries in international cricket.
89.   Holds the record for amassing most runs in a winning cause 11157 (average 56.63), including 33 centuries, in 234 matches.
90.   Also has the highest average in a winning cause 56.63 which is the highest among the batsmen with 7000 runs or more in a winning cause.
91.   He completed 50,000 runs on October 5th, 2013.
92.   He has got 20 ducks in ODI cricket.
93.   He has scored most runs in boundaries (fours)in ODI cricket 2016*4= 8064.
94.   He has scored 195 sixes in ODI cricket(Not most but in top 10).
95.   He hit 25 boundaries in his unbeaten 200 against south africa , the first and most in a single ODI innings


AND HE STILL HAVE ONE INTERNATIONAL MATCH TO PLAY……

Friday, October 25, 2013

राम और रावण

Note: 

"एक राम दशरथ का बेटा, एक राम घट-घट में लेटा।"
यह कविता प्रयास है उस घट में लेटे राम को समर्पित जिसे हमारे विचार और आचरण बनाते हैं 

Ram and Ravan, the most famous characters from hindu mythology. Both opposite of each other. But both have so many similarities. I think it was not the birth or the character that made Ram whom we all worship and Ravan who is despised by generations.Rather it was the choice of actions and the life they lived that decided who gets what status in the eyes of generations to come.Many a times i see we are at that crossroad in our mind where the action we chose will define our life ahead.The poem below is a humble attempt to keep the mind focused while making the choice of action. Please read and comment.


मर्यादा पुरषोत्तम राम और 
हठधर्मी मायावी रावण 
दोनों ही हर मन के भीतर 
लड़ रहे युद्ध निरंतर 

राम भक्त शिव भोले के 
शंभू का उपासक रावण भी 
राम शौर्य की मूरत तो 
वीरता का धारक  रावण  भी 

राम का त्याग अनुकरणीय तो
रावण का तप भी दृष्टांत योग्य
भरत, लक्ष्मण का बंधुत्व उल्लेखनीय  तो
कुम्भकरण का भ्रत्रिप्रेम भी दृष्टांत योग्य

बस दंभ अगर न करता तो 
रावण भी राम सा हो सकता था 
जो सीता को न हरता तो 
रावण भी राम सा हो सकता था 

शिव के वर को पा कर जो 
मन में अहम् न आने देता 
श्रूप्नखा का सत्य जानता 
न स्वयं को छल जाने देता 

धीरज से अगला पग धरता 
बात से स्तिथि को हल जो करता 
तो न राज्य  और कुटुंब गवाता 
तो न अपमानित हो मृत्यु पाता 

संयम मन में हो तो राम है 
निरंकुश दंभ रावण समान है 
मन मर्यादा में रहे तो पुरुषोतम
मर्यादा टूटे मन में तो रावण







Thursday, October 3, 2013

Nuances of Being: देश का नेता कैसा हो?

Nuances of Being: देश का नेता कैसा हो?: With elections just around the corner and most of the people just making opinions based on what media wants them to believe or what some s...

देश का नेता कैसा हो?

With elections just around the corner and most of the people just making opinions based on what media wants them to believe or what some shrewd politician (ruling or opposition) may say. I think we the well-read folks should look at the resume and not the speeches of the politicians or reports from media which are more media opinions than real reports.... tried to sum up that sentiments in a poem below...hope you like it!!

एक सवाल, साल दर साल, पूछ रही है जनता तो 
कौन जवाब दे इस सवाल का? कौन करे इस फैसले को?
देश का नेता कैसा हो, आखिर किस के जैसा हो  ?

जनता अब खुद जिम्मेदारी  ले 
वोट डाल जिताते जिनको, उनको भी तो जा कर पूछो , 
ऐसा कौन सा काम किया जो, फिर से तुम्हे चुन पाए हम?
कब हमारे काम हो आये, के अब तुम्हारे काम आये हम?

रावण के दस सरों का जैसे, दसों दलों से हो आते तुम 
भीतर से तो सब रावण ही हो , फिर क्या हमको बहलाते तुम?
खुद तुम सब सत्ता के लोभी,  एक दूजे पे लांछन  करते  
आपस की गन्दी शतरंज में, जनता को मोहरे सा वापरते 

हम को तुम बस मुर्ख न समझो, और न हमें बहलाओ तुम 
दूजो की कमी के गीत न गाओ, अपना गुण तो समझाओ तुम?
तुम में ऐसा क्या अच्छा है, कि जनता तुम को नेता वर ले?
पिछले वाले के बदले में, क्यों तुम को कुर्सी पे धर दे?

जीत के तुम भी  तो रावण से, अपनी असलियत  दिखाओगे 
भोली सीता (जनता) को बहला कर, जब रेखा पार ले आओगे 
तो हर कर उनके विश्वास को , दंभ से भरी अट्टहास भरोगे 
लोगों के भरोसे की लाश गिरा कर , उस पर सालों राज करोगे 

आज ने बोलो दूजे की कमियां , आज ना झूठ से बहकाओ तुम 
क्या करने का है दम तुम में , अपना परिचय तो करवाओ तुम 

आज तुम्हे बतलाते है कि देश का नेता कैसा हो 
हम में से ही कोई एक; बस हमारे ही जैसा हो 
राशन की कतार  में घंटो  लग कर ही अपना चूल्हा जलाता हो 
अपने बच्चो को सरकारी स्कूल में इमान  के पैसे से पढ़ाता हो 
चोरी और बेईमानी को मन से जो पाप मानता हो 
पढ़ा लिखा हो, देश-विदेश की नई  पुरानी बहुत सी बातें जानता हो 
जब जाये दूजो के देश तो सबका  मन गर्व से भर जाये 
अपने देश को (सच के भरोसे) फिर सोने की चिढ़िया कर जाये!!

Friday, September 27, 2013

LockDown Drill

Monday was the Lockdown Drill* at my son’s school.

Lockdown drill a concept that I have never heard of till very recently. As a father I understand the need for preparedness for the safety of my child and all the children. I respect the schools for thinking and doing such drills. However I can never understand how a human being can become so vile that phenomenon like lock down drill become a necessity.

My son came back from school and asked me a question, “Papa is it true that someone can come to my school and kill children?” I was shocked to hear that, “No son, your school has safety programs and such a thing cannot happen.” I replied; not knowing what else to say. No parent can be rightly prepared for such a conversation. How can one tell one’s own children that the world is a horrid place these days? It is not the same beautiful and wonderful place that our generation inherited from our parents. Somewhere over the years it has been tainted at all levels. 

Sorry; I diverted from where I was; anyhow I wanted that difficult conversation to end but my son further asked, “the school in Connecticut was not safe where someone killed so many children?” My immediate reaction, “who told you about that school?” “My new friend from 4th grade did.” “I don’t know about other places but I know your school is safe my son, don’t be scared.” I wanted to end the conversation. I know he always thinks about things deep and always have questions, and he remembers; I hope he forgets this. I don’t know if that makes me a bad parent; but honestly I am much unprepared to have a conversation like that with my children.

I am an old fashioned father who would rather talk about studies, sports, movies, books, any mischiefs he has done in school, any new game he has learnt and all that stuff. I can make plans like going to the mall, to the beach, to the zoo, visiting museums, libraries, fly kites, read story books and text books. I may run around playing with my children, Laughing, giggling, getting angry at them not having finished their food or homework or not having put their toys in the bin before going to bed. I want to tell them stories about giants and fairies and dwarfs and sailors and players and animals’ even wizards and witches living in strange places and kings and queens living in big palaces. I do not want to talk about someone crazy out there with a weapon trying to kill people or someone losing a friend or family to a war or a terrorist attack.

I want him to prepare for his homework and the school tests and even learn how to cook for himself. I want him to learn how to swim, how to make fire when camping, how to hold the cricket bat to play the right shots. I am talking to him about planting trees (we also have a small mango plant in a big clay pot that hopefully will become a tree in a year or two), about getting close to nature, about our role in improving the global warming situation. Good, easy talk and I think it is very useful. I don’t know how we can be back in a world where teaching these things should be enough and lock down drills are not needed.

My reaction that day was to divert his attention from that conversation by asking him to choose between a soccer game (him Vs. me) in the park or a trip to the mall where he and his younger brother can play in the play area. And I was praying that no one in his school tells him about the park in Chicago* or the Mall in Kenya*

I hope soon we are back in a world where lockdown drills are not needed. I hope for a world where kids can ride their bikes to the parks and country side and play games without their parents acting guards in the same way that I have done when I was a kid. I hope for a world where safety comes naturally and no preparedness is needed. I hope for a world where children can retain their innocence without the fear of them becoming vulnerable. I hope……

References:
*Lock Down Drill
About.com Lockdown drill Article

Chicago Park

Kenya Mall
Yahoo- Kenya Mall Seige

http://news.yahoo.com/chicago-police-search-suspects-shooting-hurt-13-024559048.html




Friday, September 13, 2013

How was vacation?

How was your vacation? I have answered this question a few hundred times in last week. Mostly I answer, it was great or it was good or it was fun. But any of those answers don't do complete justice, I wished someone asking this question had hours of free time to really hear how the vacations were and I would love to tell. Below is a teaser, a collage of some snapshots on how the vacation was.

Snapshot 1 à
A journey, Many miles on a hilly road with sharp turns, narrow lanes, pot holes and steep inclines.  Sitting in the 3rd row of a 7 seat SUV. There are 6 adults and 4 children in total in the car. Not packed at all, just comfortably cozy. From the back seat I am enjoying every minute, every turn, and every word that is spoken by any one. Even enjoying the occasional (and at times frequent) shocks caused due to the car moving through an unavoidable pothole or due to unplanned braking to allow the top speed incoming (and at times insane) vehicles to pass by. Enjoying because the 9 others with me make my family. My parents, my kids, my wife, my brother, my sister –in-law and my nephew and niece.  6 days of travelling, living in hotels, stopping at some ethnic road side joints to eat a meal or snacks or just a cup of tea. Those 6 days defined how serene and beautiful life can be.

Snapshot 2à
One restaurant, 4 friends meeting after many years. Their kids meeting each other for the 1st time, but developing an instantaneous bond, as if the friendship was coded in their DNA. Their respective Spouses gelling so well, in spite of not knowing each other well in the past. And all 4 friends lost in the memories of the good old college days. Remembering past, discussing present and sharing future plans. Shedding off all the social and professional identities that they otherwise carry day in day out; in the name of being professionally successful. Laughing their hearts out, playing pranks like they used to do many years ago. Those 4 hours defined how innocent and wonderful life can be

Snapshot 3à
And then another friend and his family, different date, different place but similar experience. Lots of unrestricted fun and lots of uninhibited laughter. The time flew by, many hours and we didn’t even notice. Those uncounted hours defined how uninhibited and carefree life can be.

Snapshot 4à
Small roadside joint, no place to sit; standing with cousins and eating snacks that have been a favorite many years ago. Everyone extremely busy in their day today life but still making time for that rendezvous. Talking loud (that is family signature) and giggling about silly things that we once did as children. Those 90 minutes defined how simple yet marvelous life can be.

Snapshot 5à
Old house, almost in ruins, looking at the stairs, the rooms (whose roofs are giving in against the rain) and the corners. Thinking of the days many years ago when I was living in this house. Living those memories. Meeting with my uncle who has always been there and missing the two who no longer live there. The cousin who left the weak structure with the hope of finding better prospects outside and the aunt who had been the foundation of this structure for many years and who recently left this world for a better heavenly abode. Those 60 minutes defined how memorable life can be.

These and many more, small things yet too big to fill the heart, that is how the vacation back home was. Hundreds of instances making me feel blessed and grateful for what life is….


PS: I hope to share some details in the next posts. Like always it was awesome to be back with family and friend. There were some deeply cherished times and feelings that I would love to share, if my pen and my heart listen to each other J

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Insensitive or Insane??

“Go home you Brats, if I see you on streets I will call the cops.” I heard a female screaming while I was stepping out of my community for an office dinner.  I turned back and by the time I reached the place the kids were all gone and she was sitting in her car with a victorious smile on her face. She really thinks she has won?

Just 10 minutes before this happened; I had stepped out of my house to walk to the dinner venue which was not too far from my house.  The first site was the little bikers. 8-10 kids all in the ages of 5-9 years riding their bicycles in the community. Our community which is a very safe, walled and gated complex and very kid friendly (well! usually). I walked few steps and they caught up with me, I could hear their voices. I kind of eves dropped on the conversations to know what they were talking about. I was obviously interested as my 6 year old son is a part of this group.

“What? you think earth is the first planet after Sun, NO YOU ARE SOOO WRONG, it is Mercury.” I could hear my son tease one of his friends. “No it is earth I don’t care where mercury is.” His friend replied. “That is because you may not know how to spell mercury.” One of the slightly older kids teased.

“Okay, all of us will name the planets together in the order of distance from Sun” the same kid commanded.  “Mercury, Venus, earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus Neptune.” They all screamed in chorus. “ Hey guys we missed the asteroid belt, so where is the asteroid belt?”  I could hear one of the kid say but then I was too far to recognize the voice. However the site of some happy kids riding their bikes and contrary to my thoughts having a very meaningful chat was so awesome that it lifted my spirits. I am going to narrate this to my wife and my friends, which was my instant thought. In this happy mood I reached close to the gate of the community when I heard the commotion and then the screams from this lady who was obviously annoyed at the kids. And to my surprise her annoyance was based on nothing but the fact that kids were playing.

I was getting late so I had to return to my dinner appointment but before that happened I called my wife and gave her a 1 minute version of the commotion and asked her to step out on Balcony to ensure that the kids are taken care of at the same time no feathers are roughed for the bird from the neighborhood flock.

Couple of hours later when I returned home,  I found that the lady had gone ballistic on the kids and the parents after I left. She totally ignored the fact that kids need to play and the fact that all the kids in the neighborhood were small and extremely well-mannered and ignored the fact that there are ‘drive carefully; children playing’ signs all over the community. She was just angry to see kids. Sadly we all parents found that it was not the first time she has done something like that. It has been her attitude in the past also. Some of the high-schoolers were smiling and remembering how the same lady had screamed on them when they were in the elementary school age for playing, running and screaming in the park and things like that which for most are naturally kid like things.

I also found that she had threatened some of the parents about dire consequences if kids are seen on the community street riding their bikes. No one could think what she meant by that, but after that episode she allegedly drove her car in the community a few times staring at the kids and the parents. So all that resulted in finally calling the cops to report the insane behavior. Which we all did.

The cop arrived spoke with all of us and calmed us down, cracking some jokes and pitying her for not being able to see the divine beauty in the playfulness of kids. Especially when they have been showing some great behavior like respecting the elders, taking care of kids younger than them, talking about solar system and other good things. I have seen them Stopping at anyone’s house to drink water obviously showing camaraderie beyond their age.

CASE DETAILS:

9 kids 5 years to 9 years of age,  various religions (Christian, Muslim, Hindu and Jew), hailing from all over the world (India, Pakistan, central Africa,  Eastern and western Europe, South America,)
Vs.
1 lady Mid Forties.(origin un-known, religion unknown as she doesn’t speak much with the neighbors)

VERDICT- Unclear if the lady was insensitive or plainly insane to miss the divine beauty of seeing children playing.

My 2 Cents to kids: Kids there will be mean and unfriendly people in the world who can’t stand the happiness and purity that you all symbolize. But you have to know, people like that are not too many. So do not be afraid. Our community has at least 150 adults living in and only one such person. Like one such person spoilt the game and mood for the whole community in the same way each one of you have power to lighten up the lives of hundreds of people. One other big lesson to learn;  when you grow up and be an adult, however good or bad your life situation is please remember this lady and this episode and use this as a beacon for what behavior is wrong and must be avoided. So now that you see there is a teaching that you can get from this lady’s behavior today (How NOT TO Behave) so you should be slightly thankful in your hearts and pray that she gets peace of mind so that she doesn’t get into this mood again.

Now what are you waiting for? Kick the stands up and ride your bikes and by the way did anyone answer where the Asteroid belt is?