Defining Being

As you may know me.... I try to pen my feelings, with more honesty than with language and grammar. While reading the posts below you may experience what compelled me to write these.
While I was thinking of giving a name to my Blog; this came to me; "Nuances of Being"
Being "Me" is the best that I am at and hope that will show in the posts below

And Thanks for reading

~Nikhil




Thursday, January 16, 2025

I A S for Success

Initially I started writing this as a quick note as a new year suggestion for the School and College students and People who are new to work-force. While writing, I realized that many of us can use this. Intentionally kept it generic and simplistic.

 

IAS is what one needs to succeed. 

(No, not the IAS as in Indian bureaucrats, read below for what I mean by IAS)

 Intent   - This is a measure of attitude towards the task  being performed and the field that it is performed in.

Ability - This is a measure of the skill set that one possesses to perform the task. Ability needs to be developed through right effort. If one has the Intent, then one can work on developing the Ability. 

Situational awareness - This is a measure of responsibility one displays while performing a task. Alertness to understand the situation and fine tune the performance accordingly. This is what a pilot with right Intent and right ability will use to correct the course and keep the flight safe and comfortable. 

Adherence to these three is a sure way to Success. When you have the right intent and attitude.  Followed by right preparation to attain needed skill and excellence.  Continuing to keenly adjust your course of action based on situational nuances. The result is a certain Success.

Success - This is measured by a scorecard, satisfactory completion of a task, personal growth, contentment, joy, respect earned, trust invested and victory.

 

PS: I encourage you to apply this IAS in any field and witness that it leads you to Success. Share your experience when you apply this.

 

Wednesday, January 1, 2025

Welcome 2025


For many years, I have been writing this to recap the year that left and to welcome the year that is starting. Thanks friends and family who read this and send me notes, comments, good wishes, blessings and a lot more. I am always grateful for that. This year's post is very personal. 

2024 for me and my family was a year like no other. We did so many things that in any circumstance will be listed as huge ups in life. My wife started a new Job, my older son got into the college of his choice, we bought a new house so all that can be listed as a big bold check mark in the list of life. But before any of these, one person decided to not read any of my blogs. Not just any reader, the most important one, the one who has been my critic and my mentor in every step of my life, My Mom. She decided to leave us all in February of 2024. While the year gave many material things, it took a large chunk of the heart and soul away. 

It is painful to lose a part of you, however in this case I didn't lose a part, I lost the 'Whole' that I have been comfortably a part of all my life. She used to say that I will always be a child in her eyes. I always felt strange, how can she even think that, for a 50-year-old man. But since the day I lost her, I frequently feel lost like a child. 

I strongly believe that, after she ascended to heaven, she negotiated with the almighty to grant us all so many things that we had wanted for quite some time. Like a new job for my wife, a new home for us all, a transfer to a better place for my brother, admission to the college of choice for 2 of her grandchildren; the list goes on. We all want to  enjoy those blessings with her, but she is not here anymore. Knowing her, she will be celebrating each of these gifts from where she is. She celebrated everyone's success (irrespective of her relation with that person) from the core of her caring heart.

This sums up what 2024 has been for me. All the political and social and economic events in the world just weaved through as the back ground acts in a stage play, while personal flow of life stayed center stage in 2024. The elections in my birth country India and my current nation USA in 2024 have been very significant for the world to come in future. Staying hopeful of a great tomorrow is important, which ever side of the political aisle you see yourself on.

Anyhow this is a post is about welcoming 2025, and as promised on Jan 1 2024, let us review the list we made at the start of 2024 and recommit for 2025

Humanity - I still repeat my OSOR (One Species One Race) slogan as we need that more and more. Let us attempt to break away the race, region and gender identities. Be PROUD OF OSOR each day of the year.

Family – A key reason for being, a key motivation for doing what all one does. Health is very precious, I wrote this last year, and repeat again for everyone, you may not even know what you are WORTH TO SOMEONE; stay healthy for your family each day of the year

Kids - To my son and my niece in college, now that you are enjoying independence; I encourage you to SPREAD THE WINGS even wider while also suggesting to STRENGTHEN THE ROOTS that have made who you are. For my younger boy; you can shine brighter than most, keep faith and focus. All kids SHINE BRIGHT each day of the year.

Friends - Can not be more grateful for each one of you. Last year I requested you to "BE THERE" and you were there when I needed it. I will not take it for granted as blessings should never be taken for granted. I hope to stay worthy of having each one of you in my life. I PROMISE TO BE THERE for you each day of the year

Self – On 1st January 2024 I wrote HOLD ON (no matter what the challenge, the stakes or the state of mind). Didn't know that I would be tested on that promise, I did not break it. What remains is still too worthy to give up. Revising the promise to HOLD ON (No matter what the challenge, the stakes or the state of mind) each day of the year.

Celebration - Celebrating everyone’s achievements can be so liberating and fulfilling. CELEBRATE each day of the year

God - You only know what you do. I am not complaining about what was lost in 2024; and I repeat my request to GUIDE AND HEAL, listen to our prayers or don't but give us all what is best for us each day of the year

 

 HAPPY NEW YEAR MAY THIS YEAR BE EXCELLENT IN EVERY WAY FOR YOU


2024 note to revisit: https://nuancesofbeing.blogspot.com/2024/01/welcome-2024.html